Today is a fairly emotive day for me. Our highly sensitive son Ben Gage would have been 14 today. He has been absent from our lives for 5 1/2 years. As time ticks on, his voice, mannerisms and cuddles are harder and harder to remember.
One thing I know for sure is the way I spoke, looked, responded and behaved had a huge impact on our interactions. If I was empathetic, calm and thoughtful, while throwing in some humour and light heartedness, many emotionally difficult situations were diffused. The essence of who Ben was would quickly re-emerge as his overarousal and inability to cope diminished.
So I urge all of you in this fast paced, sometimes self indulgent world, to stop, particularly today and ask yourself, “If I view this situation through the eyes of my child how will I behave differently?”
With this mental program running it is easier to be understanding, patient and accommodating which in turn produces a more balanced response from your child. The result of this, time and again, is a stronger emotionally rich connection with them.
This is my wish for all children, every minute of every day but I am prepared to start with one day: May 10th for highly sensitive children. As most of you know they are more affected by their world. We as their parents are the centre of this said world especially in the early years. Consider stopping and putting yourself in their shoes; My boy would be very happy.